What I'd Do Differently if I Planned My Wedding Again

I got married in 2022 and a lot has changed between now and then. I still love my wedding and my husband, but if I could redo my wedding, there are some things I would have changed. If you want to know what those things are and how to make your wedding the best event ever, then keep reading!

Big Picture Regrets

The big moments seem like such a huge thing in the moment, but in reality, once things slow down, the big stuff aren't really that big. In this section, we're going to talk about those big things and I'm going to tell you what I would worry less about if I could redo my wedding.

1. I Would Stress Less About the Small Stuff

The first one is an obvious one, but it's so important. During my wedding day, I stressed about so many little things. I wanted everything to be perfect and for there to be no mistakes, and no flaws. What I didn't realize until after my wedding, was that everything was perfect even with the flaws and mistakes. The flaws almost made it even more perfect because of the imperfection.

If I could redo my entire wedding, I would stress less about the small stuff and focus more on the love of me and my now husband. The small stuff really doesn't matter when you are saying I do to your soulmate.

2. I Would Be More Present

The next thing I would do differently if I could do my wedding over again is be more present. This goes along with not stressing as much about the little details and goes right into paying more attention to the people there on my wedding day. The day happens so quickly and years later my memories of the wedding are fading.

What I wish I would have done differently is focus more on the moment and being present through every conversation and event and not worrying so much about other things. This would have allowed me to really focus in and be able to have memorable conversations with each guest and really enjoy the moment.

3. I Would Schedule Alone Time With My Partner

This next one is something I really wish I did. I wish me and my husband had scheduled out some alone time for just him and me throughout the day. We really only had a few moments, and mainly it was when we were in the car or at the end of the day when everything was already over.

If I could do it all again, I would have loved to have a private dance at the reception for me and my husband. This alone time would have been so memorable and romantic and I suggest you try to schedule as much alone time with your spouse as you can on your wedding day!

4. I Would Worry Less About Pleasing Everyone

Something that I was very stressed and anxious about was pleasing everyone. I did this so much that I didn't always make choices that I loved, instead I picked things that other people would like. I really wish that I had just gone with what I wanted in every aspect of my wedding. This would allow my day to be exactly what I want and to be my special day and not someone else's

Make sure you don't worry about pleasing anyone but yourself and your fiancé!

Budget & Planning Changes

Now to get into the nitty gritty of things. When it comes to budget and planning that I did at my wedding, I loved a lot of the things I chose, but Here are some of the things I wish I would have done differently.

5. I Would Splurge on Photography (Or Videography)

The first thing I wish I did differently was is I wish I splurged a bit more on photography and videography. I loved the photos we took but I wish I had more photos to look and videos from the wedding day as well. We decided not to do a videographer because of the cost, but I wish we had splurged on it so we could have those visual memories to cherish forever and ever.

Style & Aesthetic

There are a lot of things I wish I had done differently in regards to the stye and aesthetic of my wedding. It was beautiful, but there was one main thing I wish I had done differently, and here it is.

6. I Would Choose Comfort Over Trend

Something I wish I had done is cared less about trend and more about comfort. I think I was so focussed on my wedding being "trendy" and perfect, so much so that I didn't think much about comfort. I should have thought about the fact that a wedding can be unique and beautiful while still being comfortable and special.

Sentimental Regrets

Here are some of the things I "regretted" about my wedding in terms of sentimental things.

7. I Would Save More Keepsakes

Looking back at my wedding, I loved it, but I wish I had kept more keepsakes from the beautiful day. For example, I wish I had done a vow book with me and my husband or got my floral bridal bouquet framed so I could cherish it forever. I think I was just so focused on the now, that I didn't think about the future. I didn't think those things were necessary. But now that my wedding was several years ago, I really wish I had done some sort of keepsake to remember the happiest day of my life.

If you want to keep wedding photos as keepsakes, consider using Wedding Snap to get a shareable qr code so you, your spouse, and all of your guests can share all your photos and videos from the wedding day. They make it so easy to have a beautiful keepsake wedding album!

8. I Would Journal Right After

Something I REALLY wish I had done during and after my wedding is journaled more. I am not very good at consistently journaling, and that's just because I forget and put it off, and then I never really get to it. Weddings are meant to be remembered and journaling about them is the perfect way to remember them forever and ever. Your future generations can also enjoy reading these journal entries from your wedding. Try to journal as much as you possibly can during and after the wedding so that you have your own words to read for years to come!

Practical Lessons

There were a few practical things about the day that would have been so easy but somehow I let them slide a little bit. Here are those things!

9. I Would Eat More

One of the most important things about your wedding day is for you to eat! Please, please, please eat throughout the day! I ate a little bit in the morning and a little bit throughout the day and at night, but I definitely did not eat as much as I could have or should have. Why? I am not so sure. All I remember is being super nervous, anxious, and anticipating the entire day and everything going right. I also remember getting a horrible headache, probably because I wasn't eating enough.

I really suggest putting some snacks in a bag and taking it wherever you go. Even if it's not a lot, a little snack throughout the day can go a long way! Also, please drink a lot of water! Making sure to stay hydrated is super important because I have heard of some people getting sick or passing out because they didn't drink enough water on their wedding day.

I want you to stay as healthy and happy as you can on your wedding day, and eating and drinking enough food and water is how you should do that!

10. I Would Delegate More

The last thing I really wish I had done more is delegate to others more. Doing this would have taken the pressure off me and allowed me to relax and enjoy the moment and trust that other people had everything covered. I would really suggest delegating more throughout the wedding day, it will really take off a lot of pressure off the bride and groom and allow you to take in every single beautiful moment of your wonderful wedding day!

Conclusion:

The purpose of this guide was for me to tell you about the things I wish I had done throughout my wedding planning experience and during the event so that you could think more about the moments that I missed. I loved my wedding, and weddings are so important and I want you to love your wedding as well. So make sure to take everything I've told you and go plan a beautiful wedding that's the best it can be!